“In The Back of My Mind… There’s You”

— July 2nd, 2006 —

Depending on how strong a relationship is, its demise can either leave a bittersweet taste in your mouth or you end up wondering how the story could’ve ended. I’ve flirted with both feelings in my life and I understand how Stevie could write the songs that Barry Manilow wishes the world would sing for him.

Love is definitely a powerful aphrodisiac.

Am I currently in that stage? No. But it was/is a nice feeling to have present in one’s universe. A close friend of mines is currently going through withdrawal. His wife is filing for divorce. The reason — she fell in love with a younger man. Hilarious?! No. But the irony is that his wife is only 22.

He tries to get her out of his head by going to the strip clubs or by watching movies. Basically, anything that can occupy his mind — but in the back of his mind, there’s her. He’s literally called me balling his eyes out because the love between the two of them was/is so strong that it feels like he is in a drug rehab program.

The question is: When does too much become a sickness?

If you harbor your feelings for another and there is no solution to what ails you, can you go on?

The relationship that I used to be in had me feeling vexed. She may never realize it, but just because I didn’t ball my eyes out didn’t mean that my heart was callous.

In this life of ours, we all have ups and downs that create an ebb and flow that is the story of who we are. Right now, my friend feels like he is under a high tide. What is the solution?

I don’t know. Most of this probably reads like jibble-jabble, but hey… you’re reading it anyways!

What’s next?

A new piece in the Daily Kent Stater, a piece at NobodySmiling.com, and don’t forget to check out that editorial at HipHopDX.com.

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One Response to ““In The Back of My Mind… There’s You””

  1. Skittles Says:

    i believe that she was to young to be getting married in the first place. Coming from a young lady prospective, I think she wasnt ready to be on lock or commited just yet. If the husband has his together she would realize that she had something good and let it go and come crawling back, but there is another women that can treat him better than she can. I think you shouldnt get married until about 25 because you need to live your young life HAVE FUN!!!!!! ACT A FOOL!!!!!! HIT THE CLUBS!!!!!! EXPLORE THE OPPOSIT SEX!!!!!! Then when you get tired of this lifestyle, then it’s time to call it quits and settle down cause marriage aint no joke you are in a commitment with this person 4 the REST of your life when things are up and when things are down. You have to wake up to that person every morning and smell there funky azz breath so if you do decide to get married, marry the person because you love them with your whole heart and not because of there LOOKS, MONEY, OR CLOTHES.

    To The husband: DONT LET HER SEE YOU SWEAT CAUSE SHE WILL LOSE RESPECT 4 YOU. IF SHE WANTS TO LEAVE LET HER CAUSE IF YOU PLAYED YOUR PART IN THE RELATIONSHIP SHE WILL SEE WHAT SHE HAD AND WANT YOU BACK. DONT TAKE HER BACK UNTIL SHE FELT THE WAY YOU DID BUT IF SHE DONT COME BACK THERE IS ANOTHER WOMAN THAT CAN DO YOU WAY BETTER THAN SHE CAN.

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